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just-for-today“It’s the repetition of affirmations, that leads to belief and once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen”
~ Claude Bristol

My constant pursuit for improvement has spanned my entire life, with even more fervor in the past 25+ years. The success I have achieved and common theme in many of the courses, seminars and books has all been a direct result of this teaching: change the way you think about yourself and see that you can accomplish anything.

Overcoming limiting belief and tribal programming are two of the biggest hurdles people face in recreating their lives or building a business.  Just look at the number of business and relationship failures, and you will notice that most have not shifted the way they think in order to create new possibilities.

When I started on Twitter I did not have a plan of what I was going to achieve or promote.  I started to share motivational messages, primarily because I received so much value and help from reading them countless times. Each time I came across a motivational message, there was always a new slant on the quote, because I had changed from the previous time.

Over the years I have attracted thousands of people who have read, applied and retweeted those motivational messages hundreds of times per day.  I have learned that the world is still in need of motivational messages.  Zig Ziglar, once said, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily”. That is why my focus has been on sharing messages that will enlighten and inspire people to become the best they can be.

In my business and life coaching journey, I have learned about and practiced affirmations, mantras, meditations and the Law of Attraction, and firmly believe that we create what we think about.  Our words and thoughts are manifested in our physical world.  Many do not realize that they alone control what they think and what those thoughts bring into their existence.  What you are experiencing is the result of your most powerful thoughts.  If you don’t like the results, you need to shift your thoughts to what you truly desire.

In my continuing effort to help the Twitterverse and all the lives I touch, I have written hundreds of affirming thoughts and share them using the hashtag #JustForToday. They are simple messages to help shift your thoughts in a positive direction.  Find the thoughts that resonate with you, or create your own and share it with us.  Repeat those thoughts throughout the day. The more positive messages you fill your head and heart with, the easier it will become to accomplish your tasks and goals.

There is no denying that becoming more positive in our thoughts, words and actions will dramatically change our corner of the world.  The more we can create this shift and introduce this simple process to others, the more we can create a better world.

Join me in sharing the #JustForToday messages with your connections.  Find the #JustForToday thought that you really need, and repeat it at least twelve times a day until you notice that you have overcome the challenge.  Create your own #JustForToday message and share it with the Twitterverse, and in doing so you will connect with others who may be or have experienced the same challenge.

Please follow me on Twitter, and let me know about your experiences in living and sharing the #JustForToday messages.

Happy Tweeting!

 

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My life has been an eclectic journey all leading and guiding me to where I am now.  My family patterns started out with parents that did not have emotional constructs on how to love me the way I needed to be loved. That propelled me on a lifelong path, one that awakened me to my own truths.  I did not feel loved nor did I feel I received the recognition I wanted and deserved. I learned that they were not capable of what I needed, and were not wired to provide what was vital in a healthy relationship. My early childhood experiences were a vehicle to studying relationships. I observed how other people reacted to each other, how they treated each other, and how they felt respect.

Travelling through two previous marriages, and a number of occupations opened my eyes to different parts of life. The journey propelled me to get my marketing degree fifteen years after high school, which started my path on personal development. I have studied personal development for one hour a day since 1989. Subsequently that motivated and boosted me into business development.

Throughout the process of self-discovery, I continued to look for ways to uncover and discover who Gary was. At that time, I shifted my priorities and went to massage school after 9/11. I realized there was more inside of me that I needed to share. I saw myself as a healer and teacher. During that period I worked through my ‘stuff’, which brought me to a place of love and enabled me to make a huge impact. I began to do massage for people with disabilities, one of the most fulfilling things I have done in my lifetime.

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Unfortunately after about four years the funding for that program was eliminated, taking away about 95% of my income and emotional support that I received from working with my clients and their families. That experience threw me into a funk. So, I started sharing motivational and inspirational quotes with others on Twitter to selfishly lift myself up.  People started responding and RT-ing, asking questions and making comments. There was a Universal message, “Okay, Gary you have your coaching certificate for ten years. This is your vehicle to coach.” I saw that experience as a positive opportunity since every single day people were remarking about my tweets. They would tell me how the message lifted them, and how it had an affirming, optimistic effect on their life. From that I experienced tremendous growth on Twitter, touching lives every day, in some way, in a very positive way.

So, what is your story?

How can I help you sort through your experiences, to find how to shift those things that happened, and not dwell in the ‘poo’ and start looking for the ‘pony’ in all of it . . . and, create happy rides?

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Discover Networking

Few, if any of us, will achieve all our career goals on our own. We have to network
our way to success.

To a lot of people new to networking, it can be overwhelming to jump into the
deep end of networking. By the deep end, I am referring to large, fee-based, high professionals. Unless you already have a comfort level with this type of group,
I suggest that you start in the shallow end. Find groups on MeetUp.com, and
connect with groups that you have interest on a personal level.

SOME OF MY NETWORKING KEYS:

Best networking happens when networking is not the primary function.

Also, there are many networking groups that cater to entrepreneurs and small businesses, and are a great place to practice.

Try this simple step.

Walk up and introduce yourself, and let them know this is your 1st meeting. Many times the seasoned networker will get you to start talking about ‘yourself’, to help you become more comfortable, so they can see ways on how to help you.

Try, Try, Try Again.

Success in anything rarely happens on the 1st attempt.

As a baby, how many times did it take to learn how to walk? You kept trying. The same is true with networking and any new endeavor in your life, it takes practice.
It takes 60 times to create a habit.

Give, Give, Give.

Focus on the needs of others. It is more important to understand the needs of others before they get to know yours.

The most important key in all relationship building is listening!

By listening you can learn about them, refer them to others as well as make suggestions to other people they can connect with to help solve their problems.
Many people and sales trainers tell us to find the need and pounce on it. I don’t recommend that. Rather connect, and simply offer to send them a blog post.

Ditch the Sales Pitch!

Remember networking is relationship building. Keep it fun, light and informal. People are more apt to do business with and refer business to people whose
company they enjoy.

You may also look to connect with any alumni groups you are associated with,
places of worship, friends and family.

Remember, make networking fun!

Want to learn more about networking?

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There always will be challenging times in our lives.  Often we tend to avoid these challenges, wishing our lives were easier, instead of seeing it as an opportunity to transform ourselves – a chance to resolve our deep-seated patterns and fears.  In order to truly heal we must be willing to journey into the cave of our internal being, and face those patterns and fears.

One of my teachers has a saying, ‘lean into the wind’...As a boy scout, our troop spent a night in a cave.  Being 12 years old I could not be sure if there really was any danger, but in a boy’s mind and with a dozen other minds feeding the story, some fantastic stories were created including ghosts, escaped prisoners, animals and bats.  None of which ever came to be, but for some, it frightened us enough to leave the cave and sleep in the van.  The stories we created are much more dramatic than reality can ever bring to us.

One of my teachers has a saying, ‘lean into the wind’. It is a tough exercise, but only through healing can it happen, as we push a little harder and are willing to take a journey into the unknown territories of our hearts.  Conquering each step, we begin to reshape and create new thoughts preparing us to change our situations. Only then are we able to answer the call for change.  When we face those fears and understand their meanings, we can be free to journey deep into the cave and find all the hidden wonders.

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AHA MOMENTS PART 1 All great changes are preceded by chaos -Deepak Chopra

Throughout my blog posts my intention has been to share transformational images. These images are places I have personally traveled, experiences I have explored in order to heal my own inner child.  I hold a light for others who are on a similar path.

As I sit on top of the mountain shining the lantern’s light, I hold the light so people following their path can see their way up. As I internalize my image and complete the journey, I shine my light down for other people who have just begun. I can hold the light for others who are not as far along.

For me, my journey began initially by accepting that I was not where I wanted to be.  I initiated my transformation.  It has been full of shifts, many freeing at first and others very challenging.  We cannot grow in our comfort zones.  It is only in chaos that true growth can be realized. Often that is where many individuals check out of the process.  It is too hard facing the memories, and challenging to take control of our reactions to what has transpired.  Most often when we search within to find a way to turn our pains into a passion that is when our own healing begins.  I am not sure if the process is ever completed, but I look at each opportunity to heal myself a little more and in the process assist others to move ahead in their journey.  The absolute beauty in this is helping others.  It has allowed me to be a better guide for even more people.

A very important thing to mention is that this transformation is not an overnight miracle.  Be aware that by going within to meditate and reflect, we awaken the life force within, just as the plants hibernate in winter.  Shutting down and going within, we begin to awaken with a new brilliant life and new fruit or flower to share with the world.

Honor yourself.  Even though the transformation will be challenging, it will be worth the effort.  Your world and your perspective of it will be altered.  Remember you are not alone. There are many on the same path, and they are willing to help.

I can help you in your transformation. Start today by scheduling a 30-minute strategy call.

You may be interested in the book, ‘TRANSFORM Your Life!’  It is a composite of inspiring, empowering and life transforming stories about hope, success, motivation, passion, adversity, authenticity, and many more topics. Purchase your book here.

 

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Lately I have been hearing many people feeling overwhelmed with their lives, business, programs and projects. A couple of people have remarked that they
needed to pull back, and did not feel that they were able to do what they had originally agreed to.

While it is always a wise decision to listen to your inner voice, if the important
parts of your life are suffering, taking a step back is the best plan for the time being.

However there are ways to work smarter, and get everything accomplished. Even before I learned about the Law of Attraction, I knew the value of looking within. Through intensive studies and coaching certification programs, I learned how to change that state of consciousness, being overwhelmed. And, I have helped many others achieve what was needed to shift to a better feeling, to stay focused and move into action and create success.

Law of Attraction teaches us that what we think will manifest, regardless of being positive or negative. So, if we are feeling there is ‘too much on our plate, not enough time, it’s too hard’, we will certainly get more of what we are asking for — even if that is not what we think we are asking for.

Our dominant thoughts will come to life from our thoughts. Being overwhelmed is a choice of how we are investing our energies. One of the biggest lessons I learned from several teachers in slightly different words was: “you cannot grow in your comfort zone”. We need chaos to help us see which way we want to go.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, a Strategy Session will help you with the one thing that can change today to improve you or your business.
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You may be interested in reading my blog, EATING ELEPHANTS #JustForToday.
By shifting your thought to a bite at a time and enjoying the process, you will see yourself making significant progress instead of getting stuck and stopping.

 

The Value of Language Filters

The purpose for filters on your car, vacuum, or air conditioner and other appliances is to keep the dirt out of the working parts of the machine. Without filters the appliance will have a very short life, if it continues at all, and the results will be
very costly.

The same is absolutely true with our relationships.  If we do not apply a language filter, we will do severe damage with our communication and ruin our relationships.  Be it with yourself or others, the words we speak can be a fertilizer allowing what lies underneath to blossom or it can bury it. Our self-talk is the best place to start.

The words we choose are programs to our sub-conscious mind, which cannot differentiate between negative and positive.  Prove it to yourself:  In the room where you are now, look around the entire room and notice everything, but the color red.

Now what was the first thing you noticed?  Almost everyone will see everything red in the room. Some may try to ignore the color red, because they remembered they were not supposed to notice the red. So, we have learned that the mind will respond to what we ask it, no matter if phrased in a negative or positive light.

If we are choosing ‘to be embraced’ with more positive things in our life, we must take action in choosing only the positive words that will bring us closer to our dreams.  I was reminded how powerful this can be when I had an AD on a dating site years ago. I had listed many positive attributes I wanted in a relationship. And, I did attract all those qualities with my wife, Caryl. However, I must remind you to be very specific in your asking. One of the characteristics I asked for was an accent. In my mind I was wishing for something soft and lyrical to my ear (Southern, Aussie, or British). What I got was a New York accent. I am grateful it is not a hard New York accent.

What we say does have a great power over ourselves and the people in our lives.  Choosing wisely what we say can only benefit everyone involved.

“Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts.” ~ Robert Fulghum

Tame the Negative Voice Within

That negative voice or Gremlin is the narrator in your head influencing you since you came into this world, and accompanies you throughout your entire existence.

He wants you to accept his interruptions as reality, and his only goal is to squelch the natural, vibrant you within.

Even though your body and personality changes over time, the gremlin keeps playing the old tapes – some of which may have been helpful in the past, but most if not all no longer work for us today.

In the book “Taming Your Gremlin”, author Rick Carson’s wonderful book of lessons assists the reader to get out of your own way and tap into a clearer vision of those gremlins – those inner voices.

When I worked on some lessons I got stuck in the process, wanting to avoid the exercise that took me back to my childhood homes in which I had to identify the feelings and memories.  My avoidance was a Gremlin trying to stay in a victim mindset until I realized that I was still living a good part of my life with those limiting beliefs.  Those recollections were not who I am or was.  They were the making of someone else and their choices.

Change the StoryI discovered that I was an actor in the play being written by my family – not a very good play, UNTIL NOW.  I am the producer of my own new play, and have cancelled my part in the previous drama.

What I learned is you can make choices as whether you want to play with the negative voice or Gremlin, ignore them or simply observe them. After reading the book, I am making better choices, having more victories.  The confidence starts flowing back in abundance when you take out the filters in what you can receive.

Lao Tzu’s philosophy is to simply notice the natural order of things. Work with it rather than against it. For to try to change what is, only sets up resistance.

Simply notice involves simply noticing. When you watch a movie you allow yourself to be entertained – you don’t work on enjoying the movie.

The Zen theory of Change states: I free myself not by trying to be free, but by simply noticing how I am imprisoning myself in the very moment I am imprisoning myself.

Some Tips:

  • Ultimately become the observer of your thoughts and those of the Gremlin.
  • Simply notice. Choose and play with options. Be in the process.
  • Your breathing is the gauge and regulator of your level of contentment.
  • Remember to fully inhale and exhale.
  • Stay aware of your body and the world.
  • Your past is not attached to you.
  • Importantly creating a ‘feel good’ feeling is an internal mechanism.
  • It is up to you to create the world you want.

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Yoga Philosophies in Life & Business

Are you feeling more and more stress lately?

It seems that you cannot go anywhere without someone talking about their stresses, or telling you how stressful “these times” are. It is as if we are becoming programmed to believe that life is stressful.

What if there was a way to alleviate the on-going stress, would you be interested?

First, let’s take a look at our outside world. Our daily events are coupled with financial pressures, relationship tensions, job changes, various relocations, and chronic illness, what appears to be an overbearing escalation of negative thoughts, emotions and feelings. It is no wonder many of us are stressed to the max.

One of the first steps is to embrace a healthy way of viewing these challenges – one of acceptance, opportunities for growth, change and freedom. History has shown repeatedly that change and innovation only happens in the midst of chaos and dark times. Is it dark enough for you yet?

Stress ManagementHow do we migrate through these adversities? How do we discover the positive lessons of these occurrences? There are specific ways of dealing with stress. Rather than resorting to negative internalization and counterproductive responses and actions, such as binge eating, drugs, alcohol, excessive television, working exorbitant overtime, there is a way to manage the stress. It does not come in a bottle or a pill, and it is not pitched on an infomercial, but has been available for thousands of years and has been shared with us through nature.

The answer is yoga. Customizable to fit into your lifestyle, yoga is the best solution I have found to alleviating the on-going stress.

I have been practicing yoga since 1996 and have benefited in many ways – calmness, breath control, strength, connection of the body and mind, a moving meditation, body awareness, and toning. When I have slipped away from my daily practice I could feel my moods shift to places I would prefer they did not go.

At the beginning of 2010, I resolved to practice yoga daily and can very proudly say that I have practiced every day. The biggest benefit has been in stress relief.

GREMLINS 2: NOUVELLE GENERATIONIn building a new business and taming gremlins, I was feeling very stressed.  I truly believe that my yoga practice has helped me keep a reign on my emotions and restored calmness in our home.

The most important aspect of yoga is breathing, keeping control of your breath while your body is in a difficult position. When we notice the breath has become short or non-existent, we honor the body and move to a place where we maintain breath control and still push the body.

Taking that philosophy off the mat and applying to our everyday life has incredible benefits. When we get upset, we tend to hold our breath and while still talking or perhaps yelling, we cut off the air supply to all of our organs and blood. Breath is one of the essential fuels for our bodies to function. Without it, it is like driving on two flat tires. The vehicle may be drivable for a while, but at what cost?

Starting our own yoga practice is very simple and cost effective. The equipment needed is minimal and yoga can be practiced anywhere. Although there are a number of incredible videos to practice on your own, I would strongly suggest finding a gifted yoga instructor and taking classes with them. The energy of the group class is wonderful, and your instructor will assist you in understanding what you are doing in the best way, to benefit you and your intention.

Yoga Honor Your Body Ignore Your EgoThere are no perfect poses in yoga. Your teacher will show you the direction to go, and it is up to you to honor your body and ignore your ego. Accept the limits of your body. We are all different and have unique experiences that have led us to where we are now. Trying to do what another is doing while your body is telling you ‘no’ will not help, but probably will hurt. You will feel great and alive, and wanting to come back for more, and perhaps in time your body will feel the need to be adjusted all the time.

Yoga has been derived from observing nature. Watch the animals in or around your home. They are stretching themselves many times a day. How often are you following their lead?

For over 5,000 years, yoga has been the best way to bridge the gap between the body, mind, spirit and emotions to create balance, one of acceptance. Yoga can assist you to achieve this acceptance and an overall sense of well-being.

Yoga listen notice breatheYoga is more than what it appears to be. Some view it in simplicity, seeing it as another form of exercise. Yoga is far reaching, the incorporation of breath work, expansion and retraction of the lungs, stretching and elongating the muscles, nourishes your entire being. The techniques of yoga utilize breath work and meditation, which alleviates stress, allows one to feel a sense of wholeness, well-being and centering within the experience – one of acceptance no matter where you are in your life. Yoga teaches you to control your mind and body, restrain the conscious state.

The benefits are immense. It is proven that yoga decreases stress, increases your stamina, improves muscle tone, impedes the aging process, and elevates a creative energy flow. Yoga is enlivening to your entire being! It is a way of life. So, when are you going to get started?

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