To Thy Known Self Be True

by Gary Loper on July 22, 2016

To thine own self be true

I have spent a lot of energy over the past 30+ years entrenched in personal development, with many great coaches and mentors, and shared what has worked for them and how it impacted my life to emulate their patterns.

I have taken it all in and have been overwhelmed at times, hearing something delivered with so much power. After observing many impressive speakers, at one moment in time I was ready to cut my hair, shave my beard and purchase a sport coat, thinking that was the missing piece. I was led to believe by some, that people are threatened by appearances that are different than their own. The message was to conform.

At one point after watching a video of a well-known speaker driving his message in a suit and tie, I received another video. The other side of the coin you might say. In this video, I saw a guy, who looked like me — after a day at the beach, promoting a high price package sitting behind a table with a box of ‘stuff’ in front of him, many times covering his mouth with his hands or the product. The over casual approach and body language raised my buttons, and I turned it off without ever seeing the entire clip.

This alarmed me that I was put off by someone who looked closer to me than the suit and tie guy. Was I secretly afraid of his look and did not want to trust him? Did I need to move closer to the “other side” to gain acceptance? More confusion arose when I learned that he reportedly sold millions of dollars of product in just a couple of days with this clip.

You can never say the wrong thing to the right person, or the right thing to the wrong person.

What I learned was “to thy known self be true”. Trying to fit in to another view of what is easier for them to handle will lead to inner turmoil, always chasing for someone’s approval.

No manner what we are promoting, the real product is you. People will be drawn to you, and your personality and values. There are a huge number of things people are looking for in any relationship, personal or business. There is more than enough for all without trying to clone one another as the only way. Systems and duplication are important, but need to be tweaked depending on the audience.

What has worked for you? I am interested in learning from your experiences in being true to yourself, and creating a public image
that people are drawn to.


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The Value of Language Filters

by Gary Loper on July 13, 2016

The Value of Language Filters

The purpose for filters on your car, vacuum, or air conditioner and other appliances is to keep the dirt out of the working parts of the machine.  Without filters the appliance will have a very short life, if it continues at all, and the results will be very costly.

The same is absolute with our relationships.  If we do not apply a language filter, we will do severe damage with our communication and ruin our relationships.  Be it with yourself or others, the words we speak can be a fertilizer allowing what lies underneath to blossom or it can bury it.  Our self-talk is the best place to start.

The words we choose are programs to our sub-conscious mind, which cannot differentiate between negative and positive.  Prove it to yourself:  In the room where you are now, look around the entire room and notice everything, but the color red.

Now what was the first thing you noticed?   Almost everyone will see everything red in the room. Some may try to ignore the color, red, because they remembered they were not supposed to notice the red.  So, we have learned that the mind will respond to what we ask it, no matter if phrased in a negative or positive light.

If we are choosing ‘to be embraced’ with more positive things in our life, we must take action in choosing only the positive words that will bring us closer to our dreams.   I was reminded how powerful this can be when I had an AD on a dating site years ago.  I had listed many positive attributes I wanted in a relationship.  And, I did attract all those qualities with my wife, Caryl. However, I must remind you to be very specific in your asking. One of the characteristics I asked for was an accent. In my mind I was wishing for something soft and lyrical to my ear (Southern, Aussie, or British). What I got was a New York accent.
I am grateful it is not a hard New York accent.

What we say does have a great power over ourselves and the people in our lives.  Choosing wisely what we say can only benefit everyone involved.

“Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts.” ~ Robert Fulghum

You may be interested in reading my blog, “Learn How to Tame the Negative Voice”.


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