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How do people best learn - Freely - Or, by ForceHow Do People Best Learn?  Freely?  Or, By Force?

Leaders understand we most often are motivated by direct result — getting a product or service to market, or raising a child or protégé to achieve their dreams, or just getting through life with the least harm done possible. This is particularly true of parenting.

We, parents and leaders alike, tend to be over-protective

We, parents and leaders alike, tend to be over-protective, often limiting creative potential and probably damaging growth. We know firsthand many of the mistakes others will make and we rush to tell them how to do it, often in a demanding way. They would be better served in a showing, sharing way.

Is our world really so busy and deadline conscious that we, as leaders, cannot be compassionate to those we work with and serve? Are we so busy that we fail to teach in the best possible light, a light that is certain to provide beneficial results for everyone?

Each of us is genuinely unique, so much so, that the ways we learn and are motivated often stand in conflict with the ways throughout our life we are given “advice”. Advice that we may not be ready to receive or are unwilling to hear. Over time we need to learn for ourselves. Sometimes those lessons are painful. If we are willing to pay attention, we can gain from that past pain. If not, we will be presented with the same lesson time and time again until we ‘get it’.

Looking back, I can recall leaders who never would have admitted their mistakes. Instead they would scream and belittle to beat their way into someone’s head. I have yet to see either method be very effective. Have you?

How different things would have been if those same leaders had led with compassion and understanding, allowing us to make our choices. Yet, always near to assist us should things start looking a little dicey. How different things would have been if those same leaders were guiding, listening, and sharing to help us realize we have more within ourselves than we realize. How different things would have been if those same leaders actually cared, instead of berating and beating everything out of us as though they knew everything.

GLINDA

Glinda, the Good Witch of the North in the Wizard of OZ, represents the compassionate leadership we seek. As you may recall, she patiently waits ‘behind the scenes’ as Dorothy follows the Yellow Brick Road, persistently looking out for Dorothy’s welfare while allowing her to learn her own lessons. When necessary, she quietly and subtly steps in to help — awakening her, for example, from the poppy field sleep to continue the journey.

Mistakes and misfortunes visit all of us. Those we serve have their own. As leaders, we must always remember everyone has a deep desire to matter, to be needed, loved and heard. Sharing our experiences in a way that respects them can do wonders in building them into all they are to become. When possible, there is nothing like personal experience to drive home a lesson that allows them to learn on their own.

Along the way, we do what we can to minimize the harm done to them or the product — mindful of course that many people learn best when they fail. I can recall a story of a project manager whose mistakes led to more than $1 million in losses to the company. To the project manager’s amazement, he was not fired. Instead he was reassured the company had just invested $1 million in his education.

So often we make mistakes and are thrown away — by companies, in our relationships, or by family. It seems the times we are most in need of love are viewed as those times we deserve it the least. In the example above, the boss demonstrates his compassion and we sense he somehow knows — even expects the company will more than recoup their investment in this project manager.

How is it in your world, your company, or your family?

Are you leading as you have been led, or are you leading the way you want
to be led?

Gandhi tells us

Gandhi tells us “to become the leader you would follow.” Far too often our experiences touch us deeply. We go about learning things we would never want to go through the same process to learn again. It turns out that learning what not to do invokes our own passions of what we truly want to do and become.

It is my hope that the thought of people being disposable ends soon. After all, we will never think or learn alike, and each of us have personal issues that tend to blur our visions. It’s been my experience many times those who do not comply with guidelines are disregarded, perhaps blurring their visions even further. We can change this pattern through compassionate leadership.

The definition of compassion is ‘to suffer with’ or ‘have sympathy’. For us, perhaps it means to discern how others feel by remembering how we may have felt under the same circumstance. Essentially, all of us are walking wounded — just keeping that in mind will provide an incredible shift for all those you serve. We would do well to also remember problems never can be fully left at home, at the office, or swept under the rug. Putting the needs of others first, and investing time and energy in those we serve will come back to us more than ten-fold. Such is the servant leader. For me, that leader was Rima. Rima helped run a small marketing company. She was incredible. Why? I believe this to be so, because she took notice of her employees’ gifts and talents, and she fed their need to share them. Over the years, I saw her turn many lives around — including my own — by listening, nurturing, guiding, allowing us to learn from our own mistakes, and validating us. Through her example, folks like me now have the great opportunity to Pay It Forward.

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Love and Happiness

Love and Happiness - Relationships start with ourselves

What needs to work in a relationship?

Foremost relationships start with ourselves. When we master that relationship,
we then can expand our relationships with a partner, friends, family, customers and our community. Intertwined with our relationships are other aspects like spirituality, health and finances. We are in a relationship with all of those facets simultaneously in life.

To take it a step further, you even have relationships with objects. For example,
take your favorite cup, how would you describe that cup? What are some of the characteristics you like about your favorite cup? Whether it is a champagne flute, etched, pretty and sleek, or a 32 oz. mug, all those different aspects are subliminal characteristics you are looking for in a relationship.

So, for example, I drink out of a 32 oz. cup. I need a lot of love. I want to drink that
all day long. I want to be sipping ‘in love’. That is one of the things I strive for in my relationship with my wife, Caryl, to be in love every day. Metaphorically, with a big cup, I can take a sip and I am drinking a gallon of water a day. I am drinking ‘love’
all day long.

How does one love oneself?

It is hard for most people. Most of us are brought up in an environment where our parents and family probably did the best they could; but in retrospect, more than likely there was a lot that they did not know. For me growing up, my parents were emotionally unavailable. They did not know how to encourage me or validate me.
My self-confidence was down for a long period of time in my life. So, one of the first things I started to do was to hang around people who believed in me, saw my gifts, and kept reminding me of them. And through that I started to see them for myself.

In 2008, one of my big revelations occurred with Twitter when people started responding. I started to utilize my gift of coaching on Twitter. That was a personal validation. People were asking questions. With every step, I gained more self-confidence and realized my gifts and skills. So, if you are in a period of self-doubt
or are unable to love yourself, just look at the little things you have accomplished.

A great exercise is to write a 100 accomplishments that you have achieved in your life, something that you are proud of. Everyone has a deep well of brilliance. Know that you have already accomplished so much, and probably have not paid attention to those events. It is a revelation to see what you have already accomplished. Start celebrating those moments!

Is there a correlation between loving others, and self-love and
self-confidence?

Self Confidence

There is a nurturing part where our confidence comes from. Our bottom line need is validation. Most of us get that validation through some expression of love. When we are in a place of love, we become confident. We feel more accepted, and from that we can be more loving. Often people get hung up because when they feel unlovable that is when they need love the most, and sometimes people start pulling away. It is hard at times to love somebody when they are not lovable.

Should we love by the Golden or Platinum Rule?

The Love Languages is the epitome of the Platinum Rule. Everybody knows the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule states ‘we should do onto others as we would do
onto ourselves’
. Whereas, the Platinum Rule states ‘we should do onto others as
they would do onto themselves’
. If I loved you the way I want to be loved, it is not going to fulfill your needs.

Platinum RuleA perfect story is one that was conveyed to me by my first coach. He received a phone call from his wife one day. She said, “Meet me downtown.” And, he said, “Why?”  She said, “Just meet me downtown.”  So, he met her downtown and they were on the corner, and he said, “What’s going on? Why are we here?”  She stated, “Just follow me.”  They go in the building, into an elevator, and get off at a marriage counselor’s office. And, he looked at his wife, and stated, “Why are we here?” She still said nothing. They get into the counselor’s office. The counselor asked “Why are you here?” Now she finally opened up and expressed, “Well, he doesn’t love me!”  He voiced, “What do you mean I do not love you?!!!  I hug you all of the time.” She looked at her husband and conveyed, “But, you never say the words.”  In his culture, his family hugged as an expression of love. Throughout their entire relationship she felt unloved, because her family expressed love with words. She needed to hear the words, I Love You. And, he never said those words. So, even though he loves her, and feels great about their relationship, she feels he doesn’t love her because he hasn’t expressed it verbally.

Importantly, if you learn each other’s love languages – how they best respond to love, how they feel loved – you will create a healthy, loving relationship. Gary Chapman wrote an excellent book called ‘The Five Love Languages’. Everybody has five primary needs in love: receiving gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time.  You can take this assessment test, and share it with your partner. Have your partner take the same test, so you can find out their primary
Love Languages.

5 Love Languages

In my relationship, for me, it is words of affirmation and quality of time that are vital because they were needs that were not fulfilled growing up. For my wife, Caryl, it is acts of service. So, if I was to follow my coach and share with Caryl words of affirmation and quality of time, it would not have the same meaning to her. Acts of service like doing the dishes, the laundry, going food shopping will warm her heart and brighten her day with a big smile.

Another way is to write a list of all the ways you felt a warm rush of love. What happened? Did someone hold your hand? Did they play with your hair? Did they open the car door? The expression of love is an accumulation of all the little things. Very rarely is it the gigantic effort unless your primary need is receiving gifts. And that’s okay, but with most of us, it is the accumulation of the little things. It is not that you have to do all of them. For example, ‘I feel loved when you open the door’, or
‘I feel loved when you spend time with me.’  It is important to put the ‘or’ in your request, so you do not overwhelm your partner with ‘and, and, and, and.’ Then your partner will feel like they must do all of them at one time. If you give them a list of little things they can do along the way, you will start building that foundation.

Remember, find a way to keep courting, to keep falling in love with each other.
There always will be ups and downs. If someone would have told us that when we were younger, we would have had a more realistic vision of what was going to happen. We tend to get surprised when we hit those bumps because we think it should be this happy ever after. Most importantly, relationships on a soul level bring out the things we need to heal. It gives us the ability to help each other grow and evolve – physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. It teaches us to become more available for each other, and to become the best we can be.

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A Small Glimpse of How Twitter Impacts People, Part 2

Never underestimate the Power of a Tweet, or even in real life, the Power of a Single Word or Statement. Messages can show up at the right time, and make a change in someone’s day, in someone’s life!

I firmly believe that utilizing Twitter is the most effective delivery system available to make this type of impact. With very few rules and limitations imposed upon us by Twitter, we can create connections with people on the other side of the world or across the street.

HERE ARE SOME MORE STORIES:

~ Here is an example of someone else’s sweet love story:

One person lived in Northern Europe. The other person who lived in South Africa stumbled across their tweet. They began to communicate. And in a brief time, a relationship formed. Shortly thereafter their long distance ‘Twitter’ relationship turned into a real life romance with a move to South Africa and a new life together. Love discovered in a tweet!

~ Here is a story about a miracle:

A Tweet from a family member, perhaps in a final attempt to find a kidney donor for a child, received thousands of responses and a perfect match was found and the transplant was a success!

~ I received this email message from a follower, who responded to a question I queried about how Twitter changed their life. It is astounding what the perspectives of those in other countries can remind us of how blessed we are, here in the States:

As a matter of principle, I don’t watch television nor listen to radio. And spend most of my time in solitude. Therefore, the internet and remotely twitter, is a huge part of my life. In this part of the world (Nigeria) where getting relevant information is akin to the holy grail, I have found twitter a reservoir of knowledge. Where a seeking-mind can draw from its wealth of abundance. More so, as one who is in the business of human development, I have found lots of very useful tips on human development handy. Could I have been able to get those information elsewhere other than twitter? Not very sure!! When you follow the right kind of people on twitter, there’s hardly anything on life you will miss out from. Ranging from beauty tips to diet, inspirational to quotable quotes, history to wisdom nuggets. To name but a few. In a nutshell, I have learned in 2 years using twitter what 10 years of rigorous study couldn’t have fetched me in the physical world. Thank you Gary for being a part of that experience!

}PgžxQTwo of the most heart touching stories that I have experienced:

Over the years, I’ve developed connections with many people in my audience, a recognition of their continual retweets and comments opens the channels of communication beyond the initial engagement. It is over time, by continually sharing positive messages that their trust is established to share some very private details of their life.

1. A woman had occasionally reached out via tweets, and Direct Messages with questions that led me to believe that there was more below the surface. Over time, 12 to 18 months, she would pop in and out of conversations with me. Then one day I received perhaps a dozen Direct Messages from her explaining in detail the horrors she experienced in a physically abusive domestic relationship. At first, I did not know what to do or say – wondering what could I do to really help her several thousand miles away. Then a message was delivered to me on a higher level – ‘God does not call the qualified, he qualifies the Called.’ I recalled another Twitter friend who went through a similar ordeal, and has made it her mission to help other women find help and representation they need to save their lives. Within a couple of tweets between Florida, Massachusetts and California, we were able to guide this woman to a safe house and to a new beginning in life.

2. The story with the biggest impact for me on how a Tweet can change the world came from a young lady who asked if she could send me an email. This was not an unusual request, and I did not think anything of it, until the next morning when I opened the message and I was frozen in front of my computer for a long time. I was completely surprised by her story. To protect her confidentiality and confidence in me, I cannot share any specifics of the story. Although I am certain – you’ll feel the impact.

Her first message to me opened with her gratitude for ‘saving’ her life. I was absolutely stunned by her very short note about how one of my tweets saved her life.

I heard God calling me again.

I gathered the courage to inquire what tweet it was, and how it ‘saved’ her life.

Each of my days are miraclesIn her return message she opened up to me that she was contemplating taking her life, tired of the complications and pain she was experiencing from a severe medical condition. She mentioned that when she saw one of my shared daily #JustForToday #Affirmation messages, something touched her to change her mind and stay amongst the living, and to use her experiences in dealing with her condition to assist others affected the same way to ease their journey.

For a brief moment my head swelled with pride. But soon came to a bigger understanding that it was not totally my doing. I had set that tweet into an automation program to randomly share a bundle of tweets one-at-a-time throughout the day – part of my Twitter strategy. There was a bigger force at work that posted that tweet at the exact time when this young lady, in her darkest hour, looked at Twitter and discovered the message her Soul was trying to get to her that her work was not done.

I want you to look deep inside yourself and uncover your heart’s desire to serve others. When we make our audience’s needs our primary reason for being on Twitter or in business, they will feel our authentic being reaching out to them. When we have earned their trust through a prolonged presence, they will provide us opportunities to serve them in ways we may have never imagined – but have been preparing for our entire life.

Work with your heart and share yourself via your messages with the TwitterverseIn today’s social networking world, where there are countless numbers of people providing similar answers to their prospect’s needs, wouldn’t it be refreshing to work with your heart and share yourself via your messages with the Twitterverse and beyond? It would be viewed completely different from all of the others who are pushing their offers and links with every message – who do not seem to realize that asking for a sale before a relationship is established is a recipe for an unfulfilling relationship for both individuals.

Look for ways to add additional value to the people you serve with your messages on Twitter. An often overlooked method of adding more value to your community – something so simple, yet massively powerful in creating goodwill is building trust and rapport and establishing a positive mental image in the minds of everyone reading your tweets.

If you need help in posting inspirational messages, feel free to connect with me and join my Twitter Management Posting Program.

Read A Small Glimpse of How Twitter Impacts People, Part 1.

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A Small Glimpse of How Twitter Impacts People - Part 1

Almost daily I receive messages on Twitter how my tweets have impacted someone’s life. Their acknowledgment warms my heart, and reminds me how blessed I am to have attracted an audience on Twitter. Justly, I have a responsibility to continue sharing positive messages each and every day.

Occasionally the replies to my shared message brings tears to my eyes. When someone shares in detail how a message or affirmation was the catalyst for creating a new way of life for them, I am humbled and proud that I followed my guidance to share those messages. As fate would be, I know full well that those that need to read or hear the message will be led to it in my Tweet stream or in someone else’s messages.

Over the years, some of the messages have impacted the mindsets, relationships, business plans, but those are the easy ones – the surface strategy of my Twitter presence. It is in these next examples that a deeper passion has awakened me to assist others. Here is a small glimpse of how I have impacted others with positive and uplifting messages:

  1. A follower asked me to help a homeless person who reached out looking for help using his only possession – a smart phone. I was able to connect them to another Twitter friend in their area, who was able to guide them to a shelter and a program. In less than 5 tweets their situation was changed!
  1. A follower’s family was struggling with the sudden death of a family member, as a result of a criminal act. I noticed their Facebook post, and turned to Twitter with their story and link to a fund raising page to help with end-of-life expenses. In a couple of days, all the monies that the family needed were provided through the generosity of our social networks.
  1. This has happened several times – a person with a dream to create a new life or business, and with no support anywhere in their life reached out for help and hope. I reached out with a 20-minute phone call to bring new hope and confidence, to keep them moving and help them so they would know that someone across the Twitterverse believes in them. Sometimes we all need a little nudge and support.

Twitter as a platform can help change the lives of people around the worldIt is from these stories and more that a bigger personal mission was delivered to me, to help others find their voice and how to best use Twitter as a platform to help change the lives of people around the world. Regardless of whether or not these people ever purchase anything from us, I believe that it is our duty to lift up the spirits of all the people our lives touch in some way.

Ask an entrepreneur why they started their business, they will answer with, ‘To help others!’ Look deep inside yourself and uncover your heart’s desire to serve others.

I would like to extend an invitation to work with me, to learn how to better use Twitter both in general and in developing relationships, business and more.
Schedule some time to discuss your plan.

#TwitterTip: Twitter is best when used as a tool to build relationships

Read A Small Glimpse of How Twitter Impacts People, Part 2

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just-for-today“It’s the repetition of affirmations, that leads to belief and once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen”
~ Claude Bristol

My constant pursuit for improvement has spanned my entire life, with even more fervor in the past 25+ years. The success I have achieved and common theme in many of the courses, seminars and books has all been a direct result of this teaching: change the way you think about yourself and see that you can accomplish anything.

Overcoming limiting belief and tribal programming are two of the biggest hurdles people face in recreating their lives or building a business.  Just look at the number of business and relationship failures, and you will notice that most have not shifted the way they think in order to create new possibilities.

When I started on Twitter I did not have a plan of what I was going to achieve or promote.  I started to share motivational messages, primarily because I received so much value and help from reading them countless times. Each time I came across a motivational message, there was always a new slant on the quote, because I had changed from the previous time.

Over the years I have attracted thousands of people who have read, applied and retweeted those motivational messages hundreds of times per day.  I have learned that the world is still in need of motivational messages.  Zig Ziglar, once said, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily”. That is why my focus has been on sharing messages that will enlighten and inspire people to become the best they can be.

In my business and life coaching journey, I have learned about and practiced affirmations, mantras, meditations and the Law of Attraction, and firmly believe that we create what we think about.  Our words and thoughts are manifested in our physical world.  Many do not realize that they alone control what they think and what those thoughts bring into their existence.  What you are experiencing is the result of your most powerful thoughts.  If you don’t like the results, you need to shift your thoughts to what you truly desire.

In my continuing effort to help the Twitterverse and all the lives I touch, I have written hundreds of affirming thoughts and share them using the hashtag #JustForToday. They are simple messages to help shift your thoughts in a positive direction.  Find the thoughts that resonate with you, or create your own and share it with us.  Repeat those thoughts throughout the day. The more positive messages you fill your head and heart with, the easier it will become to accomplish your tasks and goals.

There is no denying that becoming more positive in our thoughts, words and actions will dramatically change our corner of the world.  The more we can create this shift and introduce this simple process to others, the more we can create a better world.

Join me in sharing the #JustForToday messages with your connections.  Find the #JustForToday thought that you really need, and repeat it at least twelve times a day until you notice that you have overcome the challenge.  Create your own #JustForToday message and share it with the Twitterverse, and in doing so you will connect with others who may be or have experienced the same challenge.

Please follow me on Twitter, and let me know about your experiences in living and sharing the #JustForToday messages.

Happy Tweeting!

 

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My life has been an eclectic journey all leading and guiding me to where I am now.  My family patterns started out with parents that did not have emotional constructs on how to love me the way I needed to be loved. That propelled me on a lifelong path, one that awakened me to my own truths.  I did not feel loved nor did I feel I received the recognition I wanted and deserved. I learned that they were not capable of what I needed, and were not wired to provide what was vital in a healthy relationship. My early childhood experiences were a vehicle to studying relationships. I observed how other people reacted to each other, how they treated each other, and how they felt respect.

Travelling through two previous marriages, and a number of occupations opened my eyes to different parts of life. The journey propelled me to get my marketing degree fifteen years after high school, which started my path on personal development. I have studied personal development for one hour a day since 1989. Subsequently that motivated and boosted me into business development.

Throughout the process of self-discovery, I continued to look for ways to uncover and discover who Gary was. At that time, I shifted my priorities and went to massage school after 9/11. I realized there was more inside of me that I needed to share. I saw myself as a healer and teacher. During that period I worked through my ‘stuff’, which brought me to a place of love and enabled me to make a huge impact. I began to do massage for people with disabilities, one of the most fulfilling things I have done in my lifetime.

Inspirational messages have an optimsitic effect on life Updated

Unfortunately after about four years the funding for that program was eliminated, taking away about 95% of my income and emotional support that I received from working with my clients and their families. That experience threw me into a funk. So, I started sharing motivational and inspirational quotes with others on Twitter to selfishly lift myself up.  People started responding and RT-ing, asking questions and making comments. There was a Universal message, “Okay, Gary you have your coaching certificate for ten years. This is your vehicle to coach.” I saw that experience as a positive opportunity since every single day people were remarking about my tweets. They would tell me how the message lifted them, and how it had an affirming, optimistic effect on their life. From that I experienced tremendous growth on Twitter, touching lives every day, in some way, in a very positive way.

So, what is your story?

How can I help you sort through your experiences, to find how to shift those things that happened, and not dwell in the ‘poo’ and start looking for the ‘pony’ in all of it . . . and, create happy rides?

Invest in private coaching at group coaching rates!  Explore your hidden gifts and assets, and apply them to creating the changes you want to achieve. Together let’s get you and your business up, and generating new income for you.

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Discover Networking

Few, if any of us, will achieve all our career goals on our own. We have to network
our way to success.

To a lot of people new to networking, it can be overwhelming to jump into the
deep end of networking. By the deep end, I am referring to large, fee-based, high professionals. Unless you already have a comfort level with this type of group,
I suggest that you start in the shallow end. Find groups on MeetUp.com, and
connect with groups that you have interest on a personal level.

SOME OF MY NETWORKING KEYS:

Best networking happens when networking is not the primary function.

Also, there are many networking groups that cater to entrepreneurs and small businesses, and are a great place to practice.

Try this simple step.

Walk up and introduce yourself, and let them know this is your 1st meeting. Many times the seasoned networker will get you to start talking about ‘yourself’, to help you become more comfortable, so they can see ways on how to help you.

Try, Try, Try Again.

Success in anything rarely happens on the 1st attempt.

As a baby, how many times did it take to learn how to walk? You kept trying. The same is true with networking and any new endeavor in your life, it takes practice.
It takes 60 times to create a habit.

Give, Give, Give.

Focus on the needs of others. It is more important to understand the needs of others before they get to know yours.

The most important key in all relationship building is listening!

By listening you can learn about them, refer them to others as well as make suggestions to other people they can connect with to help solve their problems.
Many people and sales trainers tell us to find the need and pounce on it. I don’t recommend that. Rather connect, and simply offer to send them a blog post.

Ditch the Sales Pitch!

Remember networking is relationship building. Keep it fun, light and informal. People are more apt to do business with and refer business to people whose
company they enjoy.

You may also look to connect with any alumni groups you are associated with,
places of worship, friends and family.

Remember, make networking fun!

Want to learn more about networking?

Download my free eBook, 37 Keys to Better Networking Relationships: The Art of Networking.

 

There always will be challenging times in our lives.  Often we tend to avoid these challenges, wishing our lives were easier, instead of seeing it as an opportunity to transform ourselves – a chance to resolve our deep-seated patterns and fears.  In order to truly heal we must be willing to journey into the cave of our internal being, and face those patterns and fears.

One of my teachers has a saying, ‘lean into the wind’...As a boy scout, our troop spent a night in a cave.  Being 12 years old I could not be sure if there really was any danger, but in a boy’s mind and with a dozen other minds feeding the story, some fantastic stories were created including ghosts, escaped prisoners, animals and bats.  None of which ever came to be, but for some, it frightened us enough to leave the cave and sleep in the van.  The stories we created are much more dramatic than reality can ever bring to us.

One of my teachers has a saying, ‘lean into the wind’. It is a tough exercise, but only through healing can it happen, as we push a little harder and are willing to take a journey into the unknown territories of our hearts.  Conquering each step, we begin to reshape and create new thoughts preparing us to change our situations. Only then are we able to answer the call for change.  When we face those fears and understand their meanings, we can be free to journey deep into the cave and find all the hidden wonders.

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