Are you Stressed? Ready to Take Back Your Life?

by Caryl Loper on August 7, 2010

Are you feeling more and more stress lately?

It seems that you cannot go anywhere without someone talking about their stresses or telling us how stressful “these times” are. It is as if we are becoming programmed to believe that life is stressful.

What if there was a way to alleviate the on-going stress, would you be interested?

First, let’s take a look at our outside world. Our daily events coupled with financial pressures, relationship tensions, job changes, various relocations, and chronic illness, what appears to be an overbearing escalation of negative thoughts, emotions and feelings. It is no wonder many of us are stressed to the max.

One of the first steps is to embrace a healthy way of viewing these challenges is one of acceptance, opportunities for growth, change and freedom. History has shown repeatedly that change and innovation only happens in the midst of chaos and dark times. Is it dark enough for you, yet?

How do we migrate through these adversities? How do we discover the positive lessons of these occurrences? There are specific ways of dealing with stress. Rather than resorting to negative internalization and counterproductive responses and actions, such as binge eating, drugs, alcohol, excessive television, working exorbitant overtime, there is a way to manage the stress. It does not come in a bottle, or a pill or is not pitched on an infomercial. But has been available for thousands of years and has been shared with us through nature.

The answer is yoga. Customizable to fit into your lifestyle, yoga is the best solution I have found to alleviating the on-going stress.

I have been practicing yoga since 1996 and have benefited in many ways, calmness, breath control, strength, connection of body and mind, a moving meditation, body awareness, and toning. When I have slipped away from my practice I could feel my moods shift to places I would prefer they did not go.

At the beginning of this year, 2010, I resolved to practice yoga daily and can very proudly say that I have practiced every day. The biggest benefit has been in stress relief.

In building a new business and taming gremlins, I was feeling very stressed and I truly believe that my yoga practice has helped me keep a reign on my emotions and restored calmness in our home.

The most important aspect of yoga is breathing. Keeping control of your breath while your body is in a difficult position. When we notice the breath has become short or non-existent, we honor the body and move to a place where we maintain breath control and still push the body.

Taking that philosophy off the mat and applying to our everyday life has incredible benefits. When we get upset, we tend to hold our breath and while still talking or perhaps yelling, cutting off the air supply to all of our organs and blood. Breath is one of the essential fuels for our bodies to function. Without it, it is like driving on two flat tires. The vehicle may be drivable for a while, but at what cost?

Starting our own yoga practice is very simple and cost effective. The equipment needed is minimal and yoga can be practiced anywhere. Although there are a number of incredible videos to practice on your own, I would strongly suggest finding a gifted yoga instructor and taking classes with them. The energy of the group class is wonderful and your instructor will assist you in understanding what you are doing in the best way to benefit you and your intention. There are no perfect poses in yoga, your teacher will show you the direction to go and it is up to you to honor your body and ignore your ego. Accept the limits of your body, we are all different and have unique experiences that have led us to where we are now. Trying to do what another is doing while your body is telling you no will not help, but probably hurt. You will feel great and alive, and wanting to come back for more and perhaps in time your body will feel the need to be adjusted all the time.

Yoga has been derived from observing nature. Watch the animals in or around your home. They are stretching themselves many times a day. How often are you following their lead?

For over 5,000 years yoga has been the best way to bridge the gap between the body, mind, spirit and emotions to create balance, one of acceptance. Yoga can assist you to achieve this acceptance and an overall sense of well-being.

Yoga is more than what it appears to be. Some view it in simplicity, seeing it as another form of exercise. Yoga is far reaching, the incorporation of breath work, expansion and retraction of the lungs, stretching and elongating the muscles, nourishes your entire being. The techniques of yoga utilize breath work and meditation, which alleviates stress, allows one to feel a sense of wholeness, well-being and centering within the experience – one of acceptance no matter where you are in your life. Yoga teaches you to control your mind and body, restrain the conscious state.

The benefits are immense. It is proven that yoga decreases stress, increases your stamina, improves muscle tone, impedes the aging process, and elevates a creative energy flow. Yoga is enlivening to your entire being! It is a way of life. So when are you going to get started?

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A Reason, Season or Lifetime

by Gary on March 15, 2010

Throughout our lives, people come and go.  Sometimes making a major impact, but always touching our lives in some way—even when the ‘lesson’ may not be revealed to us until well afterwards.  If at all—when we are not listening.

Traveling along my path I have gained many experiences and lessons to be more aware of the wonder of each of these encounters and have accepted that people or events arrive to us for a reason, season or lifetime.  For the most part I can fully accept that when a relationship ends, it is for the best, and each soul or at least one, had attained the lesson or sacred contract it needed to learn.

Even those who appear to be major dream stealers, energy zappers have been a player in our play to show us our choices and lessons so we can move closer to our dreams and potential.  I know they have served me to find my own desires, especially when they tell me what I cannot do.

The biggest challenge I have in letting go is with family.  I remember all my teachers saying, ‘delete the dream stealers’  ‘surround yourself with positive successful people’ ‘let go of the past’ ‘go with the flow’ ‘ work with those who are looking for what you have to offer’ and many more.

Why is it nearly impossible to disconnect from those who have disconnected from us?  There is still the child within us all that needs to be loved by our families, and even knowing and accepting who they are and have been, does not fill that void.   The approval of our colleagues, friends and customers is not enough; yet, we still deeply long for approval from where it never has come before.

Personally, I still struggle with this a lot.  Being estranged from all of my family for nearly 15 years, I still feel devastated on birthdays and holidays, especially when previous repeated rejections prevent any positive movement and healing.

Now, I am experiencing both physical and emotional separation.  Earlier in my life it was only emotional.  I struggle to decide which felt worse.  Having them so close and not being able to receive what was needed or move myself away in self-protection.  Their behavior is the same as it was before and continues to be.   It is my self worth that leads me to no longer accept the lack of emotional availability and needed to remove myself in order to not expect something to happen that has never happened before and that is still not being heard.

I have seen where some people will not acknowledge the existence of those who have hurt them.  But I wonder if this ever works?  It would seem that you would be constantly carrying that casket and the pain will always be there.

There may never be a time when I will be able to separate myself completely from them even though it appears they have.  I am hopeful to learn from your experience in what you have done to come to a better acceptance of family estrangement so that you develop work arounds to heal yourself.

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The Firespirit: A Firewalker’s Journey – Interview with Gary Loper

March 7, 2010

The fire of the spirit, guided by intensity and gusto, radiates desire and passion.  That deep yearning to fulfill one’s mission, dream and vision is the forerunner to creating momentum in one’s life.  Sometimes it is foreshortened and overshadowed by our mindset, thoughts that penetrate so deep within that we become [...]

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Being Overwhelmed is a Choice

March 3, 2010

Recently, I have been hearing many people feeling overwhelmed, with their lives, business, programs and projects.    A couple of people have remarked that they needed to pull back and did not feel that they were able to do what they had originally agreed to. 
While it is always a wise decision to listen to your inner [...]

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