Most people ignore the road to self-discovery. Countless people avoid this path simply running to many other things. Some of these folks have invested their lives into discoveries and inventions that have changed the world, but have not explored the deeper aspects of themselves.
How many relationships have you encountered where the other person was not available, not listening or just ran away in one manner or another when difficult times transpired? If you do not explore who you are and go to deeper depths, how can you be available for others?
Many sources will tell you to find your purpose, and everything will fall into place. For me, to truly find my purpose is to really dig down deep, past all the layers of suppressed hurts and pains. And, discover perhaps for the first time, which I am, what drives me and to recognize the façade I created to fit in.
We all have been blessed with unique qualities, gifts and talents. Trying to be something you are not, hasn’t really worked for you – has it? Some would argue that the success they achieved in the business world was the trade off to achieve some type of security. As we found our way in the world, we observed our family and were programmed on how to give and get love, and how to behave in the world. The ‘be seen and not heard’ thing.
As we grew up, we became confused by the voices inside of us with our dreams, goals and missions to help others and truly be happy. Those voices of our past keep repeating that it is not good enough, you’ll never make enough money at that; or, you can’t be chasing those dreams, you have other obligations.
So we wind up swallowing our dreams, hopes and eventually our entire being. We settle for what we were told by others whom probably had their dreams crushed as well. Gone are the days of our forefathers who only knew to work for someone else to gather a check and eek out a living. In these times people of vision and passion will create the new world. Entrepreneurs will and have been the stimulus in economic recovery.
To truly find yourself is no longer a luxury of the rich and famous, or a spiritual quest of meditating in a cave or mountaintop. In order to thrive in the world and to continue to make it better for every life we touch, we must take a journey of self-discovery and see who we are, determine which of the old rules no longer fit and create new ones that will move us forward.
In discovering our true self, we will find a joy and lightness—which will probably feel pretty strange to many. When we have this happiness and know what we are supposed to do and are able to assist others, we can then truly fly with freedom.
I invite you to work with me, so I can assist you in discovering your true self, and how together we will create a new you full of purpose and joy.
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Often people express that we should love by the Golden Rule. I prefer to embrace the Platinum Rule. Everybody knows the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule states ‘we should do onto others as we would do onto ourselves’. Whereas, the Platinum Rule states ‘we should do onto others as they would do onto themselves’. If I loved you the way I want to be loved, it is not going to fulfill your needs.
Importantly, if you learn each other’s love languages – how they best respond to love, how they feel loved – you will create a healthy, loving relationship. Gary Chapman wrote an excellent book called ‘The Five Love Languages’. Everybody has five primary needs in love: receiving gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time.
My eBook, 37 Keys to Better Networking Relationships: The Art of Networking, is a guide to assist both the new as well as the seasoned networker to have even better experiences at all of their networking events. Over the years I have seen and experienced many of the mistakes some networkers make in trying to connect, to get you to buy their stuff. My focus on Giving instead of Getting sets the stage for you to be your authentic self, and to learn from others or perhaps become aware of some of the errors you are making in your networking efforts, as the cause for your limited results.
If you are new to Twitter with a specific niche, I believe it is in your best interest to watch and learn from your ‘competition’, and duplicate their best practices and find ways to enhance your presence by providing what they are not.
On Twitter there is no opt in or friend request to gather their information to send them an email or another offer. On Twitter there are massive opportunities to create connections with your growing audience, and expand the relationship to a phone or Skype call or in person meeting.
Every person is the Gatekeeper for everybody they know. There are countless conversations going on at the same time, and the same is true in your Twitterverse. Of the large number of followers you will attract only a small percentage of those will be reaching out or engaging with you. Focus on connecting with those people already showing some interest in you. Always remember that everyone we meet is the Gatekeeper for everyone they know.
